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Lesson 1 · 12 min · Foundation

Run Your Relationship Like a Small Business

Borrow a CEO's operating cadence to give your partnership the structure most couples never plan in.

Weekly meetingRelationship operationsAgenda designAttention budget
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Lesson 2 · 12 min · Foundation

Weekly Appreciation and Honest Feedback Rituals

Stop hoarding grievances. Build a simple weekly ritual that compounds appreciation and surfaces friction early.

Appreciation ritualFeedback loopCataloguing grievancesPositive framing

Lesson 3 · 12 min · Applied

Bids, Turning Toward, and the Four Horsemen

Notice the tiny invitations for connection your partner offers daily, and audit yourself for the four corrosive moves.

Bids for connectionTurning towardFour HorsemenSelf-audit

Lesson 4 · 12 min · Applied

Conflict on Unsolvable Problems

Sixty-nine percent of relationship problems never fully resolve. Learn to manage rather than win them.

Perpetual problemsSix-question interviewAccountability vs accusationRepair

Lesson 5 · 12 min · Applied

Sustaining Desire by Design

Desire fades when relationships become predictable. Engineer novelty, build sexual currency, and rethink low libido as context.

NoveltySexual currencyResponsive desireContext over biology

Lesson 6 · 12 min · Applied

Talking About Sex Without Shame

Build the vocabulary to give live feedback, name roadblocks and rebuild intimacy through small offers, not pressure.

Positive directional feedbackRoadblocksSmall offers menuGoal-orientated sex

Lesson 7 · 12 min · Deep practice

Shared Vision and Vulnerability for the Long Haul

Co-write the rules of your relationship, name the habits that destroy it, and stop performing the PR version of yourself.

Shared visionRelationship rulesVulnerabilityArmor

The problem this solves

Long-term partnerships don't fail because love disappears; they fail because the maintenance gets dropped. The small daily-and-weekly investments that distinguish a relationship that's thriving from one that's slowly going flat are unglamorous, well-studied, and reliably skipped.

This micro-course treats long-term love like a small business: rituals that hold under load, sustained intimacy without performance, conflict that ends in repair, and the structural design choices that compound across decades. It's for partnered adults who've noticed the early-relationship energy isn't free forever and want to invest deliberately.

A taste of the exercise

The preview lesson walks you through the ‘four rituals’ design — a daily, a weekly, a monthly, and a quarterly investment in the relationship — and a 30-day pilot you can run starting this week.

Key concepts

Maintenance rituals
Recurring practices — weekly walks, monthly money date, quarterly reflection — that keep the relationship in working order without requiring crisis as the prompt.
Repair attempts
Small moves to de-escalate during conflict. Research suggests successful couples make far more repair attempts and accept far more of each other's.
Bid-and-response
Small daily moments where one partner makes a low-key request for connection. Turning toward bids predicts long-term relationship satisfaction more reliably than absence of conflict.
Conflict styles
Volatile, validating, conflict-avoiding all sustain happy relationships; mismatched styles often don't. Knowing yours and your partner's helps.
Erotic vs companionate
Two different modes that long relationships oscillate between. Maintained partnerships deliberately make space for both.
Joint financial picture
Money is the most common source of relationship strain. Shared visibility and a written joint plan removes 80% of it.

Common mistakes

  1. Skipping maintenance until crisis demands attention.
  2. Treating intimacy as ‘should happen naturally.’
  3. Avoiding the small conflicts that prevent the big ones.
  4. Letting work eat the rituals.
  5. Hiding financial reality from each other.
  6. Believing the high-energy phase should sustain itself.

FAQ

Are weekly meetings really necessary?
‘Necessary’ is too strong. ‘Reliably useful’ is fair. Couples that maintain a 30-60 minute weekly slot to discuss the week, the household, money, and what's on either of their minds have measurably fewer accumulating-resentment problems.
Is this an alternative to couples therapy?
Complement, not substitute. The maintenance work can prevent a lot of damage; serious damage often benefits from professional support. Working with a qualified therapist isn't a failure mode.
What if my partner won't engage?
You can't make another adult do this work. You can become noticeably easier to engage with. Most relationships improve when one side gets clearer. If they don't, that's information.
What about long-distance?
Same principles, harder execution. Maintenance rituals matter more when in-person bids are scarce. Most distance failures are scheduled-call failures, not love failures.