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Listening audit

Score yourself on seven listening habits. Pick the lowest one. Practise it deliberately for a week. Most people improve faster than they expect.

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Listening audit

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Rate 1 (almost never) to 5 (consistently).

  1. I don't rehearse my reply while they're still speaking.

    The biggest single tell.

  2. I leave silence after they finish before I start.

    Two seconds. It changes the conversation.

  3. I ask one follow-up question before responding.

    Curiosity, not interrogation.

  4. I notice when I'm bored and lean in instead of zoning out.

    Bored often means I'm about to interrupt.

  5. I summarise back what I heard, in their words.

    “What I'm hearing is…” Then check.

  6. I make eye contact without staring.

    Phone face-down. Body open.

  7. I notice my own emotional reactions and don't outsource them as ‘your fault.’

    Owning your reaction defuses most defensiveness.

Lowest-scoring habit.

One conversation this week where I'll deliberately practise it.