Inner critic reframe

The inner critic isn't the enemy — it's a part of you that thinks it's protecting you. This worksheet captures its loudest current line, locates what it's actually doing, and rewrites it as a more accurate inner coach.

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When to use this

When the inner critic has been the dominant inner voice for more than a week.
After a setback, mistake, or public failure.
When you notice the critic's tone is harsher than you'd ever use with someone you loved.

How to complete it

Write the critic's lines verbatim. Don't sanitise them. The exact wording is the data.
Translate from criticism to underlying concern. Behind ‘you're an idiot’ is usually a real worry the critic doesn't know how to express otherwise.
Draft the coach version that addresses the concern without the contempt.

Common mistakes

Trying to silence the critic. The critic doesn't go away; it retunes.
Replacing criticism with toxic positivity. The nervous system spots that immediately.
Doing this once and expecting permanence. Re-do it after any significant setback.

Inner critic reframe

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1. The line the critic says most often.

Word for word. Don't soften it.

2. When does it fire?

Specific situations, times, people, after specific events.

3. What is it trying to protect you from?

It's rarely random. Usually rejection, failure, embarrassment, or repeating an old pain.

4. Is it accurate today?

Often the critic was right ten years ago and hasn't updated.

5. The inner-coach rewrite.

Same intent, different tone. Honest, not cheerful. A line a serious friend would say.

6. One small thing you'll do this week the new line allows.