Skip to content
SponsoredShip your own knowledge site with Vincony
Vinthony

Friendship inventory

Most adult friendship problems aren't a shortage of nice people — they're a structural drift in the close layer, missing recurring rituals, and conversations stuck at logistics. This tool maps your three layers + scores four maintenance habits + returns one specific next move.

Who this is for

Adults who noticed at some milestone (kids, move, divorce, illness) that their close friendships have quietly thinned, and want a structured first look before deciding what to do about it.

How to use the result

Be honest about the close layer — ‘people I'd tell the hard thing to without rehearsing’ is a stricter test than ‘people I like.’ Re-run yearly. Pair with the reach-out script worksheet to act on the result.

What this tool can't tell you

It can't tell you whether a specific friendship is worth investing in or letting go — that's your judgement. It also can't fix the friendship for you; the tool surfaces the gap, the move is yours.

People you'd tell the hard thing to without rehearsing.

People you'd enjoy a long lunch with and would actively help in a real situation.

People you know by name and exchange a few words with — colleagues, neighbours, parents-of-friends, regulars.

Last time you initiated contact with a close friend (not a logistics message)

Recurring friendship rituals you currently have

Weekly call, monthly walk, quarterly dinner, annual trip — anything that re-fires without re-negotiation each time.

How often do you share something real (not logistics) in friend conversations?

All results saved to your browser only.